|
Opening
We are gathered here
today in the presence of
God to give thanks for
the gift of marriage,
and to witness the
joining together of
____________ and
_____________. In the
Jewish and Christian
traditions, marriage is
a sign of our Creator's
intention for wholeness
in all creation. Out of
the chaos, God brought
order. That creative
purpose is still at
work. The joining
together of two persons
into one unique,
intimate, and creative
unity in marriage is
therefore not only a
symbol but also a
demonstration of the
well-being, the shalom,
the purpose of human
society. And so marriage
is truly a celebration
of God's good work in
creation.
The uniting in marriage
of two individuals from
two separate families
and backgrounds to
establish a new family
is an important and
memorable event. For us,
attached as we are to
_______________ and to
____________ by special
bonds of love and
affection, the uniting
of these two people in
heart and body and mind
is an occasion of great
significance which we
can all celebrate.
Marriage is not a casual
event, nor is it simply
a private affair between
two individuals.
Marriage is to be
entered into responsibly
and prayerfully. This
marriage brings together
this day two
individuals, two
families, and two
communities of faith. It
is, then, in the midst
of a troubled and broken
society, a sign of hope.
It deserves and needs
the support of a wider
community. Today is a
time for family and
friends to share in
their commitment to each
other by offering
__________________ and
________________ our
continued support, love
and best wishes in their
lives together.
Lee us pray: 0 Lord our
God, source of all
blessing, in happiness
and joy we thank you for
the gift of marriage,
which we celebrate
today. May you give
_____________ and
_______________ the
ability to rejoice
always in their love.
May you fulfill every
worthy wish of their
hearts. May you open
their eyes to the beauty
and the mystery of the
love they hold for each
other, every day as
today. And may their |
life together embrace
and nurture the promise
of this moment, so that
all who know them will
call them truly blessed.
Amen.
Respecting Two
Traditions
Out of two different and
distinct traditions they
have come together to
learn the best of what
each has to offer,
appreciating their
differences and
confirming that being
together is far better
than being apart from
each other. As we bless
this marriage under the
huppah, the Jewish
symbol of the new home
being consummated here,
we will later light the
unity candle, the
Christian symbol of two
people becoming one in
marriage.
Explanation of
Huppah
Readings are done by the
four people holding the
poles of the huppah.
• Reader 1:
Long after tents
vanished from the Jewish
landscape, wedding
ceremonies were held out
of doors in the hope
that the marriage would
be blessed by as many
children as "the stars
of the heavens." Some
kind of covering was
employed to create a
more modest and
sanctified space.
• Reader 2:
The bridal canopy, or
huppah, is a
multifaceted symbol. It
symbolizes: modesty in
the presence of God, the
safety of your home, the
protection of a garment,
the intimacy of your bed
covering.
• Reader 3:
It is open on all four
sides to respect
Abraham, who had doors
on all four sides of his
home so that visitors
would always know they
were welcome.
• Reader 4:
The huppah does not
promise that love or
hope or pledges will
keep out weather or
catastrophe. But its few
lines are a sketch for
what might be. The
flimsiness of the huppah
is a reminder that the
only thing that is real
about a home is the
people in it who love
and choose to be
together— to be a
family. The only anchor
that they will have will
be holding onto each
other's hands. The
huppah is the house of
promises. It is the home
of hope.
Wine Blessing
The blessing over the
wine, known as the
kiddush, is a part of
many Jewish celebrations
and holidays. The word
kiddush means
sanctification, so as we
recite this blessing, we
symbolically sanctify
this couple on their
wedding day.
Blessed are you, O God,
Creator of the fruit of
the vine.
Unity Candles
A marriage brings
together two
individuals, with
separate lives, to
perform the lifelong
pledge of uniting as
one. These candles
before us symbolize the
union of your marriage.
The two outer candles
represent the two of you
as individuals. The
center candle, which you
will kindle together,
represents the unity
which will continue to
develop as you are
married. The external
candles will remain lit,
to show that, even in
you unity, you may also
remain as individuals.
(Groom and Bride
light candle while music
is played).
Vows
_____________ and
________________ please
state your intent to
enter into this union by
expressing your vows to
one another.
(Repeated to each
other individually by
phrases)
______________ repeat
after me: "I promise,
before family and
friends, to commit my
love to you; to respect
your individuality; to
be with you through
life's changes; and to
nurture and strengthen
the love between us, as
long as we both shall
live."
______________ repeat
after me: "I promise,
before family and
friends, to commit my
love to you; to respect
your individuality; to
be with you through
life's changes; and to
nurture and strengthen
the love between us, as
long as we both shall
live."
Officiant to the
congregation:
Will all of you
witnessing these vows do
everything in your power
to uphold ______________
and _______________ in
their marriage? Will
you? (We will.)
Rings
______________ , have
you a token of your love
for [Bride] ?
______________ , have
you a token of your love
for [Groom] ?
Traditionally, the
marking of the passage
to the status of husband
and wife is marked by
the exchange of rings.
These rings are a symbol
of the unbroken circle
of love. Love freely
given has no beginning
and no end. Love freely
given has no giver and
no receiver - for each
is the giver and each is
the receiver. May these
rings remind you always
of the vows you have
taken here today.
Place this ring on her
finger and repeat after
me:
This ring, a gift for
you, symbolizes my
desire that you be my
wife from this day
forward.
Place this ring on his
finger and repeat after
me:
This ring, a gift for
you, symbolizes my wish
that you be my husband
from this day forward.
Let these rings serve
not as locks binding you
together, but as keys,
unlocking the secrets of
your hearts for each
other to know, and thus
bringing you closer
together forever.
Closing Prayer
Eternal God, without
your grace no promise is
sure. Strengthen
____________ and
_____________ with
patience, kindness,
gentleness, and all the
other gifts you so
abundantly impart, that
they may fulfill the
vows they have made this
day. Keep them faithful
to each other and to
you. Fill them with such
love and joy that they
may build a home of
peace and welcome. And
guide them by your word
to serve you all their
days. Amen,
Explanation of
Yichud
I would like to take
this opportunity to
mention to you, the
guests, that
_____________ and
_____________ will be
spending a few moments
alone together,
immediately following
the ceremony. This is a
custom called Yichud,
which means "union" in
Hebrew. It gives the
couple an opportunity to
share, privately, the
power and importance of
this moment in their
lives. They will return
shortly to greet you.
Pronouncement
_____________ and
_____________, having
witnessed your vows for
marriage with all who
are assembled here, and
by the authority vested
in me by the State of
Ohio, I announce with
great joy that from this
time on, you are husband
and wife.
Breaking of Glass
Stepping on this glass
signifies remembering
the past and moving to
the future. You no
longer belong to your
parents' houses, but to
your own.
As _____________ and
___________ break the
glasses, I invite
everyone to shout "Mazel
Tov", which means
"Congratulations" and
"Good Luck".
Kiss
As a sign of
sealing your promises
made to each here today,
you may now kiss the
bride.
|